Self Improving

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality,the fact is, most people are more scared than us.You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party,casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.”

But if you could read throught her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?... Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.” We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.” Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing.

We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation. So many people engage in self destructive behaviour, the people are not simple picking the wrong people, but they have self hatred, which could lead to being self-critical, sexual actiong out, eating disorder, talking negative about oneself and others, excessive shopping, and rejecting compliments.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know. We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life does not need to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

But we are all terrified of changes, what ever those changes may be, why? Because we are afraid of doing something different, because it may get worse. Although we not satisfy with our current lifes, at least we knows how to cope with it.Imaging a woman married to a violent alcoholic man. Over time, this woman has learned how to cope with his violence.Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.